We spent so much time setting up our blog and writing about Parker that I didn't want to delete it. Even though no one is currently following our blog, I feel the need to write to hopefully relieve some steam.
On June 25th we went for our 8 week ultrasound. I knew before the doctor told us. I was incredibly sad on the drive to the doctor and was in tears before they even walked in. From our first ultrasound we knew what a heartbeat looked like. There was nothing flashing. My doctor went straight to the point, "it's not good. There is no heartbeat". BOOM. She said it was recent because our baby was the right size. Double boom. She left for us to react privately.
That's when the crying started and pretty much lasted for 24 hours. We planned to tell our parents happy news that day, but instead we had to tell them we were going through a miscarriage. It was pretty much the saddest day of our marriage.
Instead of just being in the "it took us a long time to get pregnant" club, we are now in the "we lost our baby" club. Both clubs have many members, but you don't often hear about them. Too many times we hear about the "we got pregnant on the first try!!" club. That club needs to know when to shut their mouths. They also need to know how hurtful those comments are to those of us not in that club. If I hear one more comment about how easy it is to get pregnant, I will flip, which is why I'm venting here.
Unless you've been through a miscarriage, you don't understand. Thanks for saying you are thinking of me, but it doesn't help. You had the joy of bringing your baby into this world, you went through a pregnancy, you had people shower you with gifts, you made your parents excited to be grandparents... I want to be there, but can't.
For my fellow club members, thank you for your support. To those with babies or pregnant, watch your words. You don't know who is going through a tough time.
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